<![CDATA[ASFAR Forums - Health and Sexuality]]> http://www.asfar.org/forums/ Sun, 23 Sep 2012 18:31:42 +0000 PunBB <![CDATA[Parents who try to control your relationships]]> http://www.asfar.org/forums/topic/75/parents-who-try-to-control-your-relationships/new/posts/ The other day I was talking to my mom and she was worried that I had snuck out of my room last night to meet my boyfriend. She said she was really worried because she didn't want me to (GASP) become sexually active, and since I'd recently told her of my boyfriend she thought maybe I'd snuck out to go see him. It just made me laugh (not to her face of course) because I've had sex several times with several different people and my mom trying to control this is just funny. how can parents and the government think they have control over us with these laws? The only thing that these laws do is possibly scare older people so that they don't ave sex with us. Clearly we still ahve sex with each other. Thses laws are completely dumb and useless

]]> Sun, 23 Sep 2012 18:31:42 +0000 http://www.asfar.org/forums/topic/75/parents-who-try-to-control-your-relationships/new/posts/ <![CDATA[Lowering the age of consent]]> http://www.asfar.org/forums/topic/102/lowering-the-age-of-consent/new/posts/ I have noticed that your discussions and points cover a variety of things but they tend to avoid this one. I would like to know if there's anyway we could get more active about this topic as well because it is important. It affects our privacy, our freedoms, and I find this law to be a bit offensive. I have researched it quite alot and discovered different takes on the law and reasons that it is implemented. I understand that its taboo to talk about "sex" sometimes but this is one of the main reasons that I beleive in a push for youth rights.
I have looked up the terms and found out a variety of deffinitions, all of which are patronizing. They claim that teens and people under the age of 18 can't "understand" the consequences and implications that sexual activity has on their bodies and futures but that's not true. They claim that "the mentally disabled and minors (under 18) can't consent fully and must have an advocate. -They claim that children would get "taken advantage of" if the law was lowered.  But this is not so. It's true that there are some children that can't handle that responsibility and freedom, children who are very sheltered. But it is also true that age (from my expereince) doesn't and shouldn't  define most people.   
I know from experience that having a  healthy relationship with someone older isn't always a bad thing and although I have not been sexually active with this said person persay (because I love them and don't want them locked up) I have broken the law before and I don't feel "victimized" or "taken advantage of".

I want to someday live in a world where me and my partner can walk downtown holding hands, were I can introduce him to my mother (because I know that she'd love him if he were my age) and where I won't be judged just because I like someone whose a few years older then me. I want to at least help make that world possible and so that is why I beleive that we should take a stand and at least discuss this "taboo" idea of free love.

]]> Wed, 30 May 2012 07:33:23 +0000 http://www.asfar.org/forums/topic/102/lowering-the-age-of-consent/new/posts/ <![CDATA[Age of consent]]> http://www.asfar.org/forums/topic/72/age-of-consent/new/posts/ As a minor who enjoys online roleplaying, I find it rather unfair that so many erotic roleplay sites are for adults only. If schools are going to teach us about sex as early as fifth grade, why don't they trust us to be responsible about it?

]]> Wed, 30 Nov 2011 02:20:31 +0000 http://www.asfar.org/forums/topic/72/age-of-consent/new/posts/